Here’s One Simple Life Rule To Live By (You Might Not Like It)

When I was younger, I thought that knowing what to say would help me get girls.

I thought by mastering lines or knowing approaches would change everything.

But I was full of shit. Completely.

The secret to getting women is— wait… no… no, not just the secret to women… it’s the secret to men, too. It’s the secret to getting your dream job. It’s the secret to live an amazing life.

Now do you see how powerful what I’m about tell you is?

The concept is very simple so pay close attention:

What you demand from life, you MUST demand in yourself.

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Want a great job? Get great at what you do.

Want a girl who’s smart? Get smart.

Want an awesome life? Do awesome things.

Want a “sharped dressed man?” Step your own fashion up.

It’s simple, but too often we get the cart before the horse. For example, I’ll hear a guy say, “I want a girl who’s in great shape.” Then, I’ll blink and press my bare palm against my forehead as I think, When was the last fucking time YOU went to the gym? Same with a girl who wants a guy who’s “successful” while she gripes about her own dead-end job.

Only demand from life what you can put it.

Sure, there are times you can go “out of your league” and get something better. But it’s far better to become better and reap all the rewards from advancing.

That’s also why I think most “pick-up artist” stuff is pure shit. Because it’s all about how you can manipulate people; NOT how you can improve yourself to become a stunning candidate.

To add to this, sometimes I hear guys say they workout to get girls. First and foremost, I respect their honesty — many dudes are afraid to admit this. But understand, gentlemen, that you have this backward.

You’re focused on the girl when you should be focused on yourself.

As one of my mentors once said: “I want my body to reflect how I feel on the inside.”

Gandhi once said: “As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” Shakespeare said: “To thine own self be true.”

It’s weird, though. Some people feel this is a bit selfish. Oh, I’m doing this all for me? Or they’ll get upset: So you’re saying I have to do all this work?

Maybe. Maybe not. Life works in mysterious ways. But if you master yourself, only then, you’ll know that you’ll be worthy of the fruits of more.

It wasn’t until my senior year of college I adopted this life rule.

But, fuck, only then did I truly start to live.